When we say “expectations hurt and that’s why one should not expect from friends and life”, do we really understand the core of our future, planning and hope more importantly lies in the fact that we expect things.
You plan about tomorrow. You dream of being to some place, for working or for traveling. You dream about a girl and your future with her. You dream of your children and their upbringing, their careers. You dream not to have mid-life crisis. You dream to have leisured pensioner life. You dream to die without much of pain, neither to yourself nor to your loved ones.
What is this dreaming and planning, if it’s not expecting? You dream means you expect things to go according to your plan. Sometimes they go according to your plan and most of the times against it. But that does not mean one should not dream or for that matter expect.
Everybody expects. It’s just that some show the pain of getting hurt and some don’t. Some just rub it off and go ahead and some can’t. But that does not mean, the ones who can’t move ahead are wrong. It’s their way of dealing with things.
When I say my brother; sister or friends don’t remember me. They don’t call me. I get sad, I get hurt. I should not expect them calling me is ok to just say. But even after consistent efforts from me to touch bases with them, if the thing is not moving ahead, then what’s wrong in me expecting, “Why they don’t call me? Why my friends act weird with me? Even though I’ve been good with them all”
But being a human, one expects something or the other in his/her life. You are bound to expect things. So stop saying “Don’t expect. That’s just not Humane”.