You know how you want to write something nice. Then you come across a post like this and you think why didn’t such things come to my mind?? 🙂

Girl on the Contrary

You know how when you need to go to the store late at night- like you have to go- but you have to put pants on? I resent that.

You know how when you are on a diet and then all your coworkers decide to eat something delicious but full of calories for lunch? I resent that.

You know how when you buy chapstick but it ends up making your lips more dry? I resent that.

You know how when you are on a great date and all night you’re anticipating the kiss, and then the guy doesn’t kiss you? I resent that.

You know how when you are about to go to bed, but then an awesome but scary movie is on, and then you watch it, and then you have nightmares all night? I resent that.

You know how you plan an awesome trip and then get really…

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The Reluctant Detective – Book Review…

The Reluctant Detective by Kiran Manral

The title of the book is very apt – The “Reluctant” detective.

A thirty something housewife, a school gate mom and a rich, fashionable woman – that’s how Kanan Mehra, the protagonist of the book, is. This book somehow the inverse of what general book is. In general, the author becomes the character in the book. But here, the character reflects more on the life of the author itself.

Kanan Mehra was a working woman, now a full time mom to Kabir and what a normal rich woman is, an avid shopper and fashionable. Attending lunch parties and oh, not to forget the kitty parties. She stays in plush apartment and society where there are not one but two murders. Kay, being the gossip Queen (self bestowed honor) decides to solve the murder mystery of the woman who lived in the same building and of a man whom she hardly knew.

On hearing or reading the word “Detective”, you would expect some investigation, some thrilling revelations etc. But there are more parties and out station trips, kitty parties and gossiping involved. The story starts with jogging, where Kanan Mehra wears some fashionable and costly cloths, lycra or some material. The book kind of describes the author’s own life like what her son does and what she expects from spouse, what she wears and what fashion statement she makes. In between all this, the author sometimes thinks of the murders and what can be done to solve those.

But then what I felt is the book is true to its title, The “Reluctant” detective. The author being a housewife, wife to a rich man and mom to a brat (that’s how she addresses her son) it’s obvious that the book talks about fashion, cloths, make up, kitty parties, zero figure, lunches, expectations from spouse etc. So I think the author (Kiran Manral) has done quite a good job. Her fashion vocabulary is something a girl will like to go through and have.

The book could have been better, had the author tried to reduce the daily make-up and getting ready, what to wear and what to say things and included more of some “real” investigation in the story line. I mean, before going to trip (Kay Mehra and family goes for a trip in between) the murder is a mystery and after coming back from the trip, just after 2 days, the murder mystery is mysteriously solved. That part doesn’t add up pretty much.

Overall, the book is good read for those who like the fashion world, girls especially. And okay read in general.

Lessons from Past…

Indian mythology is full of miracles, supernatural and marvelous phenomenon, which cannot be justified with the common knowledge of Science. But every tale (not almost but every) has something or the other to teach us. The teachings mostly being about moral and ethics, what is righteous and what is wrong. In short how to behave as a human being. Indian mythology is overwhelmingly full of such tales and incidents.

One of such incident is of Sant Jñāneshwar.

Sant in Marathi means saint. He was a 13thCentury (1275-1296) saint, poet, philosopher and much more. His

Sant Dnyaneshwar

contribution to Marathi literature and overall history of India is something inexplicable. He wrote a commentary and critic on Bhagvad Geeta, known as Bhavartha Deepika, at the tender age of 15. Today, that Bhavartha Deepika also known as Dnyaneshwari is considered a milestone in Literature World. He had one elder brother (Nivrutti – who was also his Guru/teacher) and 2 younger siblings (Sopan and Mukta).

Now he (Dnyaneshwar) being very pious, soft spoken, ever calm and composed, often did some or the other miracles like, asking a male buffalo to read out the Vedas loudly and cooking bread on his sister’s back etc. But the most talked about miracle is of he and his siblings sitting on a wall and making it fly.

The story may be true, may not be true. I, however, believe that the story is true. But keeping aside the practical part of it, we have a huge lesson to be learnt from this incidence. It often happens that we get into the fight of deciding whether it is correct or not and always keep aside what we need to learn from it.

Coming back to the story, there was another learned person and a saint himself named Changdeva Maharaj, who was a mystical yogi. He had control over the “Classical Elements” and used to perform supernatural acts with his this control.

It so happened, that Changdeva Maharaj came to know about Dnyaneshwar and his sibling’s prowess over Vedas and wanted to test them. So he sent a blank note/paper to Dnyaneshwar Maharaj. On receiving this blank paper, Dnyaneshwar Maharaj and his siblings started laughing at this gesture and wrote back a 65 verse quintessence on Vedas back to Changdeva Maharaj. Changdeva Maharaj, though being highly learned and so much powerful, couldn’t understand anything out of those 65 verses and decided to meet these children in person and show the greatness and power of his. So he rode a huge tiger and carried a venomous Cobra as a whip. Dnyaneshwar saw a big procession coming towards their village and spotted Changdeva Maharaj riding a tiger. These siblings then sat on a wall and made it fly towards Changdeva Maharaj.

Sant Dnyaneshwar humbles Changdev Maharaj

Changdeva Maharaj was stunned to see an inanimate wall being used as a vehicle. His false pride and ego was crashed in an instance and he suddenly alighted from the tiger, sat on his knees to salute Sant Dnyaneshwar. He then became one of the disciples of Sant Dnyaneshwar.

Lesson:

Just because you are older than others, doesn’t mean you are of higher stature. (Dnyaneshwar was just 12-13 years of age and Changdev Maharaj was more than 50 years when this incident took place.) As we know, capabilities bring more responsibilities. The more learned you are the less should be your ego and false pride. Rather, a learned person should never have an ego. Changdeva had so much power, but he had ego, and that was the worst part of it.

Ego kills the knowledge you have. Too much boasting on knowing something is very harmful. You are not the only one who knows things; there will always be someone else who knows more than you. If we have to take recent example, we can think of Sachin Tendulkar. Even after spending 23 years in the game of cricket, he is not complacent about his batting and playing prowess.

In short, a learned man should always be humble 🙂

Seriously a musical bliss. It’s spell binding and soul cheering. Thanks to “Girl on the Contrary” for this post, because of which I came to know about this band n songs…

Girl on the Contrary

The Civil Wars

Last night, I went to see The Civil Wars play live at the Paramount theater in Austin, which happens to be one of my favorite places, and once again it was STUNNING.  Some of you may remember that I first saw The Civil Wars play last July in Austin and I was put under an absolute spell by their music. Their album, Barton Hollow is an amazing album (one of my top albums of all time in fact) but to hear them live is on a completely different level of mind-blowing. After hearing them live the first time, I was positively overjoyed. After last night, I am euphoric.

Typically, I don’t like to go see the same band within months of already having seen them. I’ve found it to be disappointing because there is rarely new music and the second time just can’t compare with the ecstasy of the first…

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A pretty common situation we all find ourselves in is “sitting in a meeting with farting person”. This post is hilarious and check out the comments too 😉

Girl on the Contrary

Cat Fart

Picture it: You’re sitting in a moderately full meeting room in the middle of a very long and discussion heavy meeting. Every one in that room needs to be there. The man sitting next to you (a man in a very prominent position) is passing gas like it is going to produce vast amounts of money. His flatulence smells like what you image zombie’s decaying flesh to smell like only slightly more hellacious. What do you do?

I’ll tell you what I did. I sat through that entire 3 hour meeting and didn’t say a thing even though I was almost gagging by the end of it. It was one of the most uncomfortable things I’ve ever had to sit through. Usually, when someone is farting up a storm, you can leave the room or roll down a window or something, but when you’re in a meeting? What’s a girl…

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Will A Vacation Help???

She really needed a vacation, to cool herself off”, said Isabelle.

That gives rise to the question in my mind and that is,

Do vacations transform a person?

I mean seriously, whether a short or long, do vacations transform a person? I don’t think. A good change of moods, stress buster – yea, that’s what vacations will do. But transformation has to be from within. Also it needs deliberate steps to be taken.

The next question of mine to Isabelle was, “Will the vacation change Maria’s attitude?

Maria always has these fights with her colleagues. Let the issue be a small one or big, doesn’t matter. It’s like her way or highway. She won’t budge even if her team mates intervene. She has this ego, attitude problem and she doesn’t require any reason to have fight with anyone.

If she doesn’t like anyone, she simply doesn’t like that person. No reasons, so explanations. You ask her what’s her problem with someone and she will give you some weird reasons, which cannot be reasons at all. But that’s how she is.

But behind her blasting mouth, harsh heart and intimidating attitude, there lies the insecurity. I think she is insecure about something. That can be because, she is still single and girls of her age are already in relationship or are about to get married. That can be because, she thinks that she will lose the grip on people and they won’t listen to her again.

Whatever the reasons are, the central question here is, will vacation change her attitude? I don’t think so. Because a small/big vacation will distract her mind from the day-in and day-out blasts she has. It will soothe her a bit, but the day she is joining the office back, the thoughts will again start lingering in her mind.

“I need to square things with her. My defense will be this. If she says something, I will give her befitting reply now”. This and sort of things will start running in her mind again. And in another couple of days, she will back to the square one. And the same story will repeat again.

What she really needs is NOT vacation, but change of attitude. And that needs to come from within. Then only she will be able to let go such incidents at work place and be a friendly to all.

Disclaimer: The character’s names in the setup are fictitious. But the setup, well, is very much real and true.