“She really needed a vacation, to cool herself off”, said Isabelle.
That gives rise to the question in my mind and that is,
“Do vacations transform a person?”
I mean seriously, whether a short or long, do vacations transform a person? I don’t think. A good change of moods, stress buster – yea, that’s what vacations will do. But transformation has to be from within. Also it needs deliberate steps to be taken.
The next question of mine to Isabelle was, “Will the vacation change Maria’s attitude?”
Maria always has these fights with her colleagues. Let the issue be a small one or big, doesn’t matter. It’s like her way or highway. She won’t budge even if her team mates intervene. She has this ego, attitude problem and she doesn’t require any reason to have fight with anyone.
If she doesn’t like anyone, she simply doesn’t like that person. No reasons, so explanations. You ask her what’s her problem with someone and she will give you some weird reasons, which cannot be reasons at all. But that’s how she is.
But behind her blasting mouth, harsh heart and intimidating attitude, there lies the insecurity. I think she is insecure about something. That can be because, she is still single and girls of her age are already in relationship or are about to get married. That can be because, she thinks that she will lose the grip on people and they won’t listen to her again.
Whatever the reasons are, the central question here is, will vacation change her attitude? I don’t think so. Because a small/big vacation will distract her mind from the day-in and day-out blasts she has. It will soothe her a bit, but the day she is joining the office back, the thoughts will again start lingering in her mind.
“I need to square things with her. My defense will be this. If she says something, I will give her befitting reply now”. This and sort of things will start running in her mind again. And in another couple of days, she will back to the square one. And the same story will repeat again.
What she really needs is NOT vacation, but change of attitude. And that needs to come from within. Then only she will be able to let go such incidents at work place and be a friendly to all.
Disclaimer: The character’s names in the setup are fictitious. But the setup, well, is very much real and true.