“Destiny” – [Random Feelings Series]

Sitting in the window,

he was lost in thoughts,

contemplating why and how,

wrong have gone the plots

* * *

A moment ago it felt,

like he figured out all,

a moment of life dealt,

and he saw it all fall

* * *

Study, good job and then,

get married to a girl,

ship was on the way when,

he saw the sails unfurl

* * *

The ship changed its route,

zigzagging South and West,

his throat went Brut,

and left a bitter taste

* * *

He fought against with furor,

trying to alter the path,

with his eyes on the shore,

recalculating the math

* * *

He then thought why not,

go along the flow and check,

what his destiny has got,

and how do its plans bake

* * *

He let the wind take charge,

ship sailed to the shore,

albeit different, but large,

see what fruits the destiny bore.

– – – PBK

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Do Things Really Change???

 

We generally say as the time changes, most of things change, meaning of various things differ. While I agree to this statement, I also think that the underlying meaning to the things we have been doing since past – remain the same. It’s just the way of doing things that change, the perspective changes.

While the superficial meaning of marriage has changed, the underlying motive behind the marriage institution remains the same. In old times, marriage was to give security and have a partner in all levels of life. It was also to get a legal sex (illegal sexual activities were there in historical times too, just that they were very rare in numbers).

Today, as we are getting modernized, getting laid isn’t much of a fussy subject. We don’t need marriage to get laid (though extra-marital or pre-marital sex is still not a moral thing, though it has gotten legal now, of course a consensual sex). Today people get married to be financially secure (working couple is an example) or for various other things. But even then the underlying motive of marriage institution hasn’t changed. However modernized we get, we still need a partner in all aspects and levels of life.

2 + 2 will always be 4, no matter if we are in 1st century or 50th.

We mould things as per our requirement. Till 20th century asking for a bribe to do your work was a crime. And in 21st century, asking for a bribe and not doing your work is crime or let’s say immoral. (Because such crimes don’t get punished in India anymore, especially if the criminal is related to politics or politician)

But the immorality tag is still there attached with this activity. Asking for or paying a bribe was immoral till 20th century and is still immoral in 21st century. Though in 21st century we don’t consider it outrageous if our things are getting done.

In short, things don’t change really. Our perspectives do. Our methods do. But the underlying meaning, motive behind things don’t change. As we say truth never changes, though the perception about truths change for us.

 

 

 

 

Trade Off…

Trade Off…

We constantly live in the world of trade-offs. Whether the path number 1 is correct or the path number 2 is correct, is always the question. The life we live is better or the life others live is better is always the case.

And in such a trade-off we choose the path which the masses follow, in turn living their life. We never give it a thought and consider both the cases standing at the middle point of both.

One such trade-off is whether to live lavishly or to be subtle. There are myriad cases surrounding us which show both the facets of this trade-off, but we often choose the lavish lifestyle because we consider that’s the current trend and it’s cool to live lavishly.

There are two pre-cursors to living a lavish life style.

  1. Either you have inherited large sum of money and you don’t mind spending it, or
  2. You have hard earned (easy money can also be considered, but for keeping the discussion on sane level, I am not including the easy money in this case) money and want to live lavishly.

Now here I need to describe what I mean by lavish lifestyle. This lavishness is not in its entirety but considers only one aspect of providing extravagant things/items to the kids.

  1. Providing children (under aged) vehicles, high end gadgets, extravagant items.
  2. Providing kids money (as pocket money, which is a good thing) but not keeping the outgoing in check. Parents need to ask their children where and why they have spent the money.

I think providing your kids with the things they demand instantaneously is a crime. Yes, it is a crime. You should teach them the waiting game. They demand and you provide won’t work for long. Because in that case, their expectations from you keep on increasing and you keep on doing the exact things you shouldn’t be. If they get things at the moment it comes out of their mouth, they lose the value. Forget about losing the value, they don’t even understand the value of money.

They think, if you can afford to provide me with high end gadget, which kids of his age in general don’t have, buying gadgets is pretty simple task for you. But what they don’t understand is the hard work you put behind earning the money to buy them the gadgets.

It’s a trade off.

I think, living subtly gives you more options. It allows you to fulfill the wishes of your children and at the same time teach them the importance of money. This will teach them the value for money. Let the kid ask you for a wrist watch, tell him you will buy it for him. But don’t buy it at the exact moment. Let him/her wait for some months/days and then buy the watch for them. They will be happy to see the surprise package from you.

One thing to consider here is, if you buy them goods instantaneously they might feel happier about it. But trust me; in the long run the happiness which kids get when they finally get the item after a little wait is long lasting and worth than the happiness they might get when they receive goods instantaneously.

So live subtly at least for your children, for them to understand the importance of money and keep them buoying instead of either flying or getting submerged.

Be A Human… #aros

Being a man or woman,

Merely is not enough,

Being a humble human,

Is needed, but it’s tough

* * *

Problems arise a lot,

But keep the character,

Life is a testing pot,

It breaks, also applies plaster,

* * *

Dog bites you,

But you don’t bite back,

Life gives lemons to you,

Collect them and fill your sack

* * *

That sack will be useful,

Will contain all experiences,

Life will become blissful,

When you jump off the fences.

* * *

Human Mentality… #aros

Do you remember, when you were small kid, your mother used to tell you, “Don’t go near to gas burner, that will burn your hand”?

But still you drifted towards burner, blinding your mother or parents; just to see what actually happens if you touch the burner. Most of the times your parents were vigilant about your movements and they avoided the evitable. But somehow you might have succeeded into getting to touch the burner and once you experienced that, you never went near to try again.

That’s “Human Mentality” for you.

This similar example applies in various aspects of life. You are banned from doing some things or rather denied to do certain things which you wanted to enjoy. Like,

  1. I grew up in a town where talking to a girl on road was a big issue and gossip for the whole town. While in cities like Pune, Mumbai; talking with girls was never an issue, neither with parents nor with society. So whenever we used to go to Mumbai or Pune, we used to stare at girls and guys from Mumbai never used to do that.

When thought about it, I came to know, it’s the same theory. Deny something and heart aches for that thing more. Had we been given chance to interact with girls, we wouldn’t have felt the increased heart beats. It could have been a normal phenomenon.

  1. Another example can be given is that of companies in India. Blocking services like gtalk and yahoo chat. Companies always give an explanation saying chatting reduces efficiency. I seriously don’t think so.

Given a chance to, for how long a person can chat, collectively for maximum of 1 hour in a day, according to me. Everyone has deadline and understands how much time s/he should dedicate to social bonds. Nowadays, people have tremendous work pressure and to relieve of that pressure one needs some distraction.

And I think, denying someone something only aggravates the craving for that particular thing. Allow people to have some social connection and at the end of the day, you will come to know that productivity hasn’t declined.

It’s basic human nature. A person can’t focus for more than 2-3 hours at a stretch. Frankly speaking, 2-3 hours a day is also a lot of expectation. So taking boredom out of work place will be helpful and productive also.

Give people what they crave for and automatically after some time, the attraction fades and its optimum usage starts.

Never Again… #aros

 

Never again, will we see our childhood,

Jumping with the joy and crying for things,

Running behind butterflies, playing in mud,

Behaving as if, we are the only kings,

 

Never again, will we see our adult age,

The love, the responsibilities and the rage,

You work like donkeys and earn heaps,

Where you feel like a free bird in the cage

 

Never again, will we see our old age,

Memories cross linked, identities confused,

Vicinity to grand children, joy of acceptance,

Some lie in the sorrow of being refused

 

Never again, will we see a person gone,

Whether from our lives or even the World,

Memories stay, photos fade, life continues,

Dairies fill with life and pages are curled

 

Never again, will we see the time passed,

Minutes gone by and seconds unused,

Every time we see hands at same place,

But the days and years are confused

 

 

Peecha (The Trail)… #aros

 

यही इसी राह पर,

देखा था उसको भटकते हुए,

कई बार,

 

ख्वाबोमे खोई हुई,

और मंज़िल की तरफ बढ़ते हुए,

 

एक दिन,

मैं भी उसके पीछे चला,

मंज़िल उसकी जानने के लिए,

 

नापे उसके हर कदम,

और मैं भी चला बहकते हुए.