Instant Connection… #aros

Recently I was chatting with a friend of mine, for the first time, and I felt like I know her since pretty long time. The comfort zone between us was inexplicable.

At times you feel such connection with some people. You meet them very first time and you feel the instant connection. You feel like this is the friend I was searching. You come across so many people day in and day out, but there are only few with whom you feel this Instant Connection. And I term it as,

“Love at first sight in Friendship”

Yes. Love at first sight in friendship. I do come up with such phrases every now and then. I should get this phrase patented now 🙂

The point being, you do come across some people and you feel why they weren’t in our world before?? At times the connection felt is so strong that you feel like sharing your feelings with them. And they in turn do the same too.

If someone has felt this ever, please cherish it. These are the small joys which we need in our lives to make it more lively and happening. And if someone has not come across this feeling, hang on for some time; you will also come across such person with whom you will feel “Love at first sight in Friendship”. I have been blessed with some certain friends.

Human Mentality… #aros

Do you remember, when you were small kid, your mother used to tell you, “Don’t go near to gas burner, that will burn your hand”?

But still you drifted towards burner, blinding your mother or parents; just to see what actually happens if you touch the burner. Most of the times your parents were vigilant about your movements and they avoided the evitable. But somehow you might have succeeded into getting to touch the burner and once you experienced that, you never went near to try again.

That’s “Human Mentality” for you.

This similar example applies in various aspects of life. You are banned from doing some things or rather denied to do certain things which you wanted to enjoy. Like,

1. I grew up in a town where talking to a girl on road was a big issue and gossip for the whole town. While in cities like Pune, Mumbai; talking with girls was never an issue, neither with parents nor with society. So whenever we used to go to Mumbai or Pune, we used to stare at girls and guys from Mumbai never used to do that.

When thought about it, I came to know, it’s the same theory. Deny something and heart aches for that thing more. Had we been given chance to interact with girls, we wouldn’t have felt the increased heart beats. It could have been a normal phenomenon.

1. Another example can be given is that of companies in India. Blocking services like gtalk and yahoo chat. Companies always give an explanation saying chatting reduces efficiency. I seriously don’t think so.

Given a chance to, for how long a person can chat, collectively for maximum of 1 hour in a day, according to me. Everyone has deadline and understands how much time s/he should dedicate to social bonds. Nowadays, people have tremendous work pressure and to relieve of that pressure one needs some distraction.

And I think, denying someone something only aggravates the craving for that particular thing. Allow people to have some social connection and at the end of the day, you will come to know that productivity hasn’t declined.

It’s basic human nature. A person can’t focus for more than 2-3 hours at a stretch. Frankly speaking, 2-3 hours a day is also a lot of expectation. So taking boredom out of work place will be helpful and productive also.

Give people what they crave for and automatically after some time, the attraction fades and its optimum usage starts.